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Feb
26

How to Tap Into Preexisting Resources

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A recent article from Steve Andreas, one of my favorite NLP thinkers, offered some useful examples about the presupposition that people have all the resources they need, but they may not be applying them in the right context. The great hypnotherapist Milton Erickson described these resources as “what you know, but you don’t know that you know.”

For instance a manager might have wonderful people skills and treat his employees with care and respect, but he might end up struggling to treat his spouse well. When reminded of his abilities, he could be encouraged to treat his wife as though she were one of his valued employees.

Steve encourages those he trains to discover the areas where people are already successful and have them apply that skill set to the troubling context.

I have found that this often will work—sometimes in surprising ways—and it can be reinforced with suggestions like, “I never know how people can discover new ways to apply old skills. I’ll be curious to see what happens for you.” This presupposes that they will discover something, prompting them to take positive action using resources they already have.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, please share them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts. 

P.S. Do you want to share this post? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.

About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Jan
22

How to Create Clarity AND an Inspiring Vision

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visioning-collage

I’ve already finished my business plan for the year, and now I’m wrapping up a visioning board that corresponds to that. A visioning board helps people create a visual representation of what they want so they can “see” where they’re going. Mine allows me take a look at my lifestyle, business and travel goals and to really set my sights—literally—on what I want to stay focused on.

It’s important to keep your overall focus in mind when planning for the year, and a visioning board can be helpful for creating the clarity you need. My clients have mentioned how advantageous it is to be clear about what they want to accomplish. Establishing this clarity has made a significant difference in their lives.

When you begin the process of creating your board, don’t just focus on your business plan. Be sure that you have a complete vision—one that takes into account what you want for yourself above and beyond your business.

Creating Your Visioning Board

Once you’ve selected a piece of paper or poster board to serve as the backdrop for your vision, follow these steps:

  1. Start with the idea of the lifestyle you want. That should influence your board and your business. (Remember, you want your board to influence your business and not the other way around. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to let your business take over. If you’re not in charge of your business, it will be in charge of you. That’s what has happened when you hear someone say, “My business is killing me.” or “My business doesn’t give me any time.”)
  2. Next, choose your images. Sit down with a collection of magazines, cutting out what appeals to you. If you want a new house, a new car or a great vacation, include pictures of each. The pictures will remind you to create new opportunities in support of what they depict.
  3. While working on #2, watch for words and phrases that represent your goals and dreams, and cut those out as well. Some of the ones I’ve collected include “dream big,” “indulge in the extraordinary,” and “it’s time for the vacation of a lifetime.” (One nice thing about working for yourself is that it’s easier to schedule vacation time.)
  4. Look at family dreams as well and create a family vision. Beth and I are working on the visioning board together.
  5. Don’t forget to include items representing your spiritual, intellectual, physical and emotional development.
  6. Put your board in a high-traffic area so you can look at it often. Remember that you’re doing this exercise to create the kind of life that you want. Seeing these words and images will remind you on a regular basis of what you’re working for. It stimulates you and reinforces what you want, so it should reside in a prominent location.
  7. Revise as needed. Your visioning board should a dynamic piece that you add to over the course of the year.
  8. Now that you know what you want, create a specific action plan for how you’re going to achieve it.

Sample vision board image courtesy Wikipedia / Cjboertjens

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, please share them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts. 

P.S. Do you want to share this post? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.

About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Oct
20

Addressing a Fear of Criticism

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Thanks to each of you who submitted a tip request last month. This month I’d like to address the following question from one reader.

Lately I’ve noticed that I still have a huge fear of criticism. Consciously I tell myself that it’s okay to fail and make mistakes—that I don’t care what people say. I also remind myself of my belief that the only opinion I care about is God’s. However, I’ve noticed that deep down inside that’s not the case. I often find myself in unfavorable situations where, if I evaluate it, my fear of criticism is still looming large. Read More→

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