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Apr
19

Making Your Dream a Reality

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As I plan my long-awaited trip, I’m looking at what I want and dream about through the prism of older age. I don’t have unlimited time; therefore I am applying criteria to my choices. Many years ago I set a goal of being on as many major rivers as I could because river travel seemed like a way to connect with early explorers and adventurers, and I have thought of myself as an adventurer for most of my life.

Dreaming is the first step toward getting what you want. You must take action, ideally inspired action, to realize your dreams, and at times you must employ faith, acting in the absence of truth or certainty.

If you live in the east or southeast and have been thinking of working with me, especially in person, this trip could be your opportunity. Part of what I have to share is a congruent message about following your dreams. One of the major outcomes of many who work with me is that they step into and live their dreams. This may be an act of faith on your part.

Over the past two years I have recommitted to acting in that way myself—acting on faith. I do this by committing to follow my heart’s desire. I don’t want to be at the end of my life regretting what I have not done. I’ve always ascribed to Alfred Lord Tennyson’s idea, “’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

Are you committed to following your heart’s desire? Are you regularly taking action to realize your dreams? If you really want to accomplish your goals, at some point you have to move from planning to action. You must act.

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Dec
16

Planning for Next Year? Ask Yourself These Two Questions

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As you near the end of each year, it’s always useful to ask yourself what you want to accomplish the following year. I’d like to pose this question at a higher level than is typically asked—instead of what do you want to do, I challenge you to answer this question:

“Who do you want to be in the coming year?”

I’m implying that there’s a particular identity you want to assume. Answering this question about identity will require you to think about the values and beliefs that you’ll need to have in place to be that person.

All too often we just focus on our goals for the year. Those are important, but I really want you to investigate your intentions at the level of values, beliefs and identity. All too often we get caught up in goals without looking at a higher level, and that’s what I want you to focus on.

But that’s not all.

I challenge you to take this process a step further. Ask yourself, “What is the mission I want to carry out as that person?”

If you consider your answers to these questions before determining your annual goals, the actions you take next year will support your beliefs and values, and you will be in alignment. During the planning process, you’ll probably also discover that this way of questioning is more likely to highlight values or beliefs that are potentially in conflict.

Taking the time to thoughtfully answer these two questions will help you create more empowering goals for 2016—ones that are in alignment with who you are, who you want to be and what you want to accomplish.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Apr
24

Pursue Your Dreams!

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What ultimately motivates you?

Motivation occurs on different levels. Let me explain…

We all have a drive to survive. We share this with all living organisms. Maslow spoke to this in his famous theory of the hierarchy of needs. He described how humans organize themselves to meet the basic needs first—food and shelter—and when that is realized, we can begin to focus on self-actualization, intellectual and spiritual development.

Most of us work with people who have realized their basic needs, but occasionally we have experienced or worked with people struggling to meet their basic needs. If you can’t make your house payment, it’s hard to focus on self-development. I’m going to assume that you have resolved your basic needs and have time to investigate your dreams or higher-level motivations. Your dreams speak to a deeper level truth, a higher calling. When we as coaches or change agents began to help people realize their dreams, we are doing a different kind of work.

Dreams almost always connect to our deeper mission or purpose. Having a dream implies you are connecting with something really important and meaningful. I would suggest that an inability or unwillingness to follow our dreams leads to a deep soul or heart dissatisfaction. Of course following your dreams allows your soul and heart to feel a deep level of satisfaction.

What actually causes and inspires dreams? I propose that they come from our mission or our greater “why.” Your why is ultimately what creates your passion and drive. Follow your why, and you will lead a more congruent, passionate and fulfilled life. Failure to follow your why or dreams can lead to deep dissatisfaction and even depression. At a minimum it can lead to a vague sense of boredom.

We have many ways to talk about following your dreams. We use the words fulfillment, destiny, the hero’s journey, following your bliss, etc. We also have many people in our lives who are dream stealers, people who tell us “That’s not practical,” or “You won’t be able to make a living doing that.” Why do they do they do this? Because someone stole their dreams.

To follow your dream often requires a leap of faith or requires you to challenge your internal critic, the parts of you who whisper “That’s not practical,” “You can’t make money doing that,” “No one will pay for that,” or similar messages.

So what is a person to do? Well, if they’re smart, they’ll invest in a coach or mentor who can help them follow their dream. And again, that dream often stems from or is influenced by their mission or why.

Do you know your mission, your greater purpose, your why?

It’s important to understand your why. What is it that you believe in? Can you articulate your mission, your purpose, your dream? The clearer I get about my dream and what I believe in, the more it resonates with others. They can more readily identify if it’s a good fit for them and if it’s meant to be.

In writing this I realize that my work really answers my mission—my why—and I know that when people work with me, they often speak about how my passionate support of them has made it possible for them to realize their dreams. No wonder I love what I do!

So if you do not yet know your mission or dream or why, make the commitment to do so. You don’t want to be at the end of your life describing to your loved ones how you failed to go for what was really important, do you?

It takes courage and perseverance and faith to follow your dreams, or you can make a therapist rich talking about your regret of not having gone for what was really important. So I invite you to go for your dream. Take the leap of faith.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Jan
22

How to Create Clarity AND an Inspiring Vision

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visioning-collage

I’ve already finished my business plan for the year, and now I’m wrapping up a visioning board that corresponds to that. A visioning board helps people create a visual representation of what they want so they can “see” where they’re going. Mine allows me take a look at my lifestyle, business and travel goals and to really set my sights—literally—on what I want to stay focused on.

It’s important to keep your overall focus in mind when planning for the year, and a visioning board can be helpful for creating the clarity you need. My clients have mentioned how advantageous it is to be clear about what they want to accomplish. Establishing this clarity has made a significant difference in their lives.

When you begin the process of creating your board, don’t just focus on your business plan. Be sure that you have a complete vision—one that takes into account what you want for yourself above and beyond your business.

Creating Your Visioning Board

Once you’ve selected a piece of paper or poster board to serve as the backdrop for your vision, follow these steps:

  1. Start with the idea of the lifestyle you want. That should influence your board and your business. (Remember, you want your board to influence your business and not the other way around. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to let your business take over. If you’re not in charge of your business, it will be in charge of you. That’s what has happened when you hear someone say, “My business is killing me.” or “My business doesn’t give me any time.”)
  2. Next, choose your images. Sit down with a collection of magazines, cutting out what appeals to you. If you want a new house, a new car or a great vacation, include pictures of each. The pictures will remind you to create new opportunities in support of what they depict.
  3. While working on #2, watch for words and phrases that represent your goals and dreams, and cut those out as well. Some of the ones I’ve collected include “dream big,” “indulge in the extraordinary,” and “it’s time for the vacation of a lifetime.” (One nice thing about working for yourself is that it’s easier to schedule vacation time.)
  4. Look at family dreams as well and create a family vision. Beth and I are working on the visioning board together.
  5. Don’t forget to include items representing your spiritual, intellectual, physical and emotional development.
  6. Put your board in a high-traffic area so you can look at it often. Remember that you’re doing this exercise to create the kind of life that you want. Seeing these words and images will remind you on a regular basis of what you’re working for. It stimulates you and reinforces what you want, so it should reside in a prominent location.
  7. Revise as needed. Your visioning board should a dynamic piece that you add to over the course of the year.
  8. Now that you know what you want, create a specific action plan for how you’re going to achieve it.

Sample vision board image courtesy Wikipedia / Cjboertjens

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, please share them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts. 

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Mar
11

Experience a Day of Transformation!

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Belief Breakthrough Method™

Day of Transformation

March 21, 2013 in San Francisco

9 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Are you ready to…

  • Experience remarkable shifts in your core money and success beliefs to create the life and business you’ve dreamed of?
  • Serve yourself and your clients at a higher level?

Then join me for an exciting day of business and personal growth! This intimate small group experience (with a maximum of 10 people) is designed to help you experience this by breaking through the personal barriers holding you back.

I hear from clients, coaches and wellness entrepreneurs every day about how their unconscious, hidden inner struggles prevent them from capitalizing on all their training investments. They feel defeated and perplexed when they don’t reach the financial benchmarks and the audience they have so carefully planned for. This frustration happens at every level of business as entrepreneurs endure ever-expanding challenges. They experience success, but know they are capable of much more. Something stops them.

At worst, entrepreneurs may begin to give up on their dreams, give up on believing they “have what it takes” to share their messages with the world. They hurt. And they think it’s their fault. They are wrong.

You can have all the how-tos, tips and strategies—and even know exactly what to say and when—and still get stuck when it comes to the success you envision.

Why? Because it’s not just about the how-to!

Creating the life and business of your dreams is an inside job. Without a clear idea of your hidden limiting money and success mindsets and beliefs—and the ability to change them—all of the how-tos and strategies can fall flat.

This Day of Transformation is about uncovering YOUR personal mindset blocks—the emotional barriers that keep you discounting, undercharging, doubting yourself and more—and then eliminating them.

When your “inner game,” or success mindset, is aligned with your outer game, the “how-to” of X, you’ll be amazed at how quickly money flows into your life and business with ease and grace.

Changing limiting beliefs requires up close and personal attention, not available in conference settings, larger mastermind groups or do-it-yourself programs. Because of my 40 years of study and expertise, I can help you quickly identify and change the key obstacles to your success.

Plus, a one-size-fits-all approach never captures your true magic. By co-creating with me, your unique strengths are illuminated so you tap into your core beliefs, values and who you need to be to realize the future you’ve imagined.

Step up and act on this affordable opportunity so you…

  • Banish your deflating self-doubts
  • Create money-inspiring beliefs
  • Gain confidence by standing firmly in your value and power
  • Break out of old perspectives that stand between you and your goals
  • Inspire your clients by creating genuine excitement in yourself

What you’ll get:

  • A Day of Transformation featuring an intensive small-group experience AND individual coaching with me
  • A Belief Breakthrough Pre-Retreat Assessment to identify your desired money and success goals and target what is stopping you
  • The support of like-minded coaches and wellness entrepreneurs

Be one of the first 5 to register, and you’ll receive my CD Hypnotic Recordings for Confidence, Wealth and Purpose, sessions that work in harmony with your unconscious mind to change limiting beliefs.

Register Now!

Join Terry, Master NLP Practitioner and Trainer and Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™ acclaimed by 6- and 7-figure coaches, for this exciting day of business and personal growth!

Call Terry at 520.237.4435 if you have any questions about this opportunity.

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Jan
13

Last Chance for January’s Coaches’ Intensive Program

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Belief Breakthrough Method™

Coaches’ Intensive Program

January 26-27, 2013

At the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson 

Three Reasons to Register Now 

Reason #1: Eligibility for Terry’s new Intensive Graduate Program and Certification—only those who have attended a Coaches’ Intensive Program can attend this new program, tentatively set to begin in February 2013.

Reason #2: The new Bring a Friend Discount—if you and a friend both register for this month’s Intensive, you will each get $400 off the currently listed price. This is the lowest rate available. E-mail my Client Care Manager at adele@adonai-llc.com for more information about this option.

Reason #3: Transformation—this mid-winter getaway at the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson can transform your business and your life! 

Take advantage of this opportunity to work with Terry in a small group setting where you experience your own breakthroughs while learning how to facilitate breakthroughs for your clients.

  • Would you like to learn WHY you and your clients get stuck and what to do about it… FAST?
  • Would you like a step-by-step system that will help you and your clients change faster and with greater ease?
  • Would you like to receive your training from a recognized Master of transformational change?

Remember, as a newsletter reader you can get a $200 discount off the listed price by using the code subscribe in the Shopping Cart during checkout.

If you want to catapult your ability to change those troublesome beliefs that are stopping you and your clients in their tracks, then register for this Intensive now!

Belief Breakthrough Method™ Coaches’ Intensive Program

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Jan
11

Achieve Your Goals by Setting Well-Formed Outcomes

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What I want to accomplish in this post is to explain how you can achieve the goals you want while attending to the conditions necessary to do so. In yesterday’s post, Have You Set SMART Goals?, I described the SMART conditions necessary to achieve goals. One you have described the goal, this Outcomes process will ensure that you achieve your goal.

Well-formedness conditions are the set of conditions your outcome must satisfy in order to produce an effective and ecological result. A particular goal is considered “well-formed” if it meets the following conditions.

A well-formed goal can be…

  1. Stated in positive terms.
  2. Defined and evaluated according to sensory-based evidence.
  1. Initiated and maintained by the person who desires the goal.
  1. Made to preserve the positive by-products of the present state.
  2. Appropriately contextualized to fit the ecology of the surrounding system.

Goals should be stated in positive terms, for the unconscious mind does not understand a goal stated in the negative. So a goal like “I don’t want to be broke” or “I don’t want to be sick” would need to be changed into what someone does want. Try asking a question like this: “If you weren’t broke, what would you want instead?” It’s easier to motivate yourself towards a positive outcome.

Next, you must be able to measure the outcome against a destination or benchmark. So ask something like this: “What will let you know you are moving towards your goal?” (This also implies knowing when you are not moving towards your goal.) You can flesh it out further by asking yourself or a client, “What will you see, hear and feel when you have achieved your outcome?” Get information that is as specific as possible.

Make sure that the achievement of the goal depends on what you do, not on what someone else has control over. For example, if you say, “I want my boss to respect me,” that is not in your control. If you were coaching someone in this instance, you could ask, “What would your boss be doing if he were respecting you?” The response to that could then lead to asking how your client might behave to get the desired response.

Keep in mind the idea that all behaviors have a positive benefit in some context. For this example, consider someone who wants to stop smoking. It turns out that for this person, smoking helped manage stress. Unless the new behavior includes a way to manage stress, the original positive by-products will not be maintained. Missing this can result in what many people label as self-sabotage. This is where thinking systemically is helpful.

Lastly, you want to explore the areas of context and ecology. By context I mean looking at the areas you want the outcome in. Sometimes you might mark out the goal as absolute, using words like always or in all areas. Consider that in some areas an old behavior might still serve you, and in some contexts a new behavior might actually be a problem. To assess this, ask questions like, “Will getting this outcome be a problem for anyone else?” or “Could having this outcome be a problem for me (or you, in the case of a client) in any way?” Achieving a new financial goal might potentially cause alienation in a family. If you become very successful, a partner might feel threatened. Asking the right questions teases these issues out so they can be planned for.

Now you have several ways to check your goals… and your clients’ goals. Using this process in conjunction with the SMART process should make your goal setting much more successful.

Good luck in 2013, and may you achieve what your heart desires!

I would love to hear what you think about this. Please share your feedback and comments below.

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Jan
10

Have You Set SMART Goals?

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Here’s a helpful process for setting goals. This tip is longer than usual, but I think you’ll find it to be well worth your time.

I want you to distinguish between states and goals or outcomes. A state, like happiness or confidence, is somewhat nebulous; it’s also something that you don’t have to wait for—you can actually have it right now. A goal, on the other hand, is very tangible. For instance, you might say you want to earn $100,000 in 2013, and that is something you can measure. At the end of 2013, you will know if you have achieved that or not.

A mistake people often make is to say things like “When I achieve my financial goals, then I can feel secure” or “When I lose this weight, I can then feel happy.” You can have those feelings right now—you don’t actually have to wait. With goals or outcomes, however, there has to be an element of time involved and actions taken. Goals are quantifiable. States are infinite—they can be stated for yourself or for others. You can be happy for yourself and decide to feel happy for someone else or for their accomplishments. Goals can only be set for yourself, not for others.

Notice I said states are achievable by you at any time. However, you may not know how to achieve a particular state. That may be something you need to be shown, or you may have to learn how.

If you are lacking a goal or outcome, you may not yet have a strategy or know the steps required to get there. Also if you do not have a sufficient level of belief about your ability to achieve a goal, then it is unlikely that you will do so. The higher your level of belief is, the higher your motivation to take decisive action.

Another belief plays a factor in your goals: believing that the effort you will need to expend is worth the result or the goal. If you have ever had 100% certainty that you could achieve a goal, and you believed the effort was 100% worth it, then you achieved it. Of course the goal also has to satisfy certain other factors or criteria, such as being in your control. For example, you might have set a goal to get a raise at work but still not have gotten it because of factors beyond your control. You might have more control over sales or production, and you could set goals accordingly.

The reason to have goals is to give direction to your life. Your unconscious mind requires directions—it needs to be told what to do and what to focus on. Goals will provide consistent instructions on where to go in life. If you do not set goals, your unconscious mind won’t know what you want, and who knows what it will come up with. That is also why goals need to be framed in the positive, stating what you want, not what you don’t want.

There is a specific way to express goals that will increase your success in achieving goals. This comes by way of an acronym called S. M. A. R. T.

S stands for specific and simple. If you set a goal like “I want more money,” that’s not specific enough. You need to specify how much more, and you need to specify the time frame. Simple speaks to not making it overly complex, or having too much detail. However, you will need enough details to create clarity for your unconscious mind.

M stands for measurable and meaningful. If you don’t have a way to measure your goal, it may not actually be a goal. There has to be a way to determine whether you achieved it or not. Also, is it meaningful to you? Does it give you passion? Is it something you really want? Is it juicy? Remember, if someone else sets it for you, it may be meaningful to them but not necessarily to you. Sometimes in coaching programs you may be encouraged to set financial goals that are meaningful to your coach but not necessarily to you. Sometimes your goal may end up benefiting others but is specifically for you. An example of this is raising money for charity. If you’re passionate about that charity, you will benefit from achieving that goal.

A stands for all areas of life. It is expressed as if they are already happening. Present tense is better than future tense. For example, “It’s December 31, 2013, and my business generated $100,000 in coaching revenue this year.”

R stands for realistic and responsible. Now it’s important ask realistic to whom or responsible according to what, but it also helps to just notice what your track record for setting goals has been. If you’re pretty good at it and have had a lot of success, then you should set more difficult or challenging goals. If you’re newer to goal setting or haven’t had really good track records in the past, then being realistic may mean setting goals that are somewhat easier to achieve—unless, of course, you’ve been able to increase your beliefs about your ability to succeed. Remember that your definition of realistic depends on your own experience, not someone else’s. (This is also an opportunity for you to notice your beliefs about what is realistic.)

As for responsible, there are three questions you can ask yourself to determine if your goal or goals are responsible: 1. Is it safe for me? 2. Is it safe for others? 3. Is it safe for the environment or the planet? If you get a “Yes” to all three, then most likely it is a responsible goal. Furthermore, it’s helpful that your goal satisfy the requirements of being ecological—that is to say that it will not create problems in other areas of your life. Just ask yourself, “Will getting this goal create problems in any other important areas of my life?”

When setting goals make sure you address all the important areas of your life, such as health, relationships, business, spirituality or any other area that is significant to you. You may have seen illustrated “wheels of life” divided into segments to identify areas deemed most significant. When you actually look at goals in all of these areas, you can also notice where there might be potential conflict between these important areas.

T stands for Timed and Toward. Be precise about time, specifying day, month, year and sometimes even clock time. Remember also that it’s important to specify as though you are in the present tense. So you might say, “It’s December 31, 2013, and I am looking at my bank balance of $1 million.” Toward means describing what you want in a positive manner, an expression of what you want not what you don’t want.

Running your goals through this SMART process should make them achievable. Use the comments section below to let me know how it goes.

In the follow-up post tomorrow, we’ll take a look at what I call the well-formed outcome, which will help you carry out processes and steps necessary to achieve your goals.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Dec
05

Coaches’ Intensive Program

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January 26-27, 2013
At the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson

Three Reasons to Register Now

Reason #1: Eligibility for Terry’s new Intensive Graduate Program and Certification—only those who have attended a Coaches’ Intensive Program can attend this new program, tentatively set to begin in February 2013.

Reason #2: The new Bring a Friend Discount—if you and a friend both register for January’s Intensive, you will each get $400 off the currently listed price. This is the lowest rate available. E-mail Terry’s Client Care Manager at adele@adonai-llc.com for more information about this option.

Reason #3: Transformation—this mid-winter getaway at the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson can transform your business and your life!

Take advantage of this opportunity to work with Terry in a small group setting where you experience your own breakthroughs while learning how to facilitate breakthroughs for your clients.

  • Would you like to learn WHY you and your clients get stuck and what to do about it… FAST?
  • Would you like a step-by-step system that will help you and your clients change faster and with greater ease?
  • Would you like to receive your training from a recognized Master of transformational change?

There’s also a fourth reason to register now—because the price goes up every month, so the sooner you register, the less it will cost. The current price will go up at noon ET on November 30 (this Friday) and again on January 2. As a newsletter reader you can get a $200 discount off the listed price if you use the code subscribe in the Shopping Cart during checkout.

If you want to catapult your ability to change those troublesome beliefs that are stopping you and your clients in their tracks, then register for this Intensive now!

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Nov
28

Looking for a Mentor… or Ready to Be One?

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Many of you in the coaching world have heard successful coaches talk about their mentor or mentors. The story these coaches tell is of how their mentors have helped them grow or evolve. They strongly suggest they would not be where they are today if it had not been for the input and support of their mentors. It’s hard to listen to a successful businessman without hearing a similar story.

What do mentors do? A mentor’s goal is “to establish, strengthen and align empowering values and beliefs, often through their own examples.”* Most of these successful coaches and business people chose mentors who modeled or represented what they wanted or desired.

It’s fairly common to hear such high-end coaches offer to be mentors themselves. Now what’s interesting is that not everyone who could be a mentor actually turns out to be good at mentoring. Why? Because to be good at mentoring, mentors need to have beliefs in place that support mentoring.

My thinking about mentors and mentoring has been influenced by Robert Dilts. Actually, I think of Robert as one of my mentors. Robert suggests that successful mentors operate from the following beliefs:

  • When people want something and believe in it enough, they will find a way to make it happen.
  • The most important thing I can do is to help people believe in themselves and value what they are doing.
  • At their core, all people are positively intended. Having appropriate values and beliefs is the foundation for being able to express our positive intentions in the most effective and ecological manner.
  • With advice and attention from me, this person will be able to naturally establish empowering beliefs and appropriate values.
  • One of the best ways to advise others is by being an effective role model.

It is hard to separate leadership from mentoring. The leadership style associated with mentoring is that of inspirational leadership. Inspiring others involves motivating and encouraging them to do and be their best. Both mentoring and inspirational leadership emphasize values and empowering beliefs in future possibilities.

You can see that selecting a mentor or serving as a mentor requires you to understand your own beliefs and values. I think you can also see how important it is for potential mentors to be congruent with their own values and beliefs.

I hope this information will encourage you to be careful about selecting your mentors as well as developing your own mentoring abilities, for I believe that mentoring is one of the most important roles you can take on as a successful coach.

* From Coach to Awakener, Robert Dilts, Meta Publications, 2003 (pp. 133-134).

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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