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Jun
22

Try the “Do It or Dump It” Approach to Realizing Your Dreams

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Dreams are important. Your ability to realize your dreams—or not—determines your level of happiness. Therefore, it’s helpful to periodically review your dreams to see if they still fit. If a dream still appeals to you, do it. Make it happen. If it doesn’t, dump it. Let it go.

During Marcia Wieder’s recent Wealthy Visionary Conference, people shared what seemed to be impossible dreams and how they realized them. I saw how people took action even though they were afraid. Sometimes achieving your dreams comes from taking action even when you’re scared and resistant.

Marcia herself had dreams that people thought she was crazy to pursue. She recognized that she couldn’t help other people achieve their dreams without achieving her own, and in the end she created an industry and certification program for just that—dream coaching and dream realization.

Based upon the lessons she’s learned over the years, Marcia’s processes guide people through the steps necessary to realize their dreams. She shared some of her tips during the conference, and two of them really resonated with me:

  1. Develop discernment. Know what to say yes to and what to say no The skill of discernment is like any muscle. You need to exercise it in order to strengthen and improve it. You must commit, as an entrepreneur, to the art of discernment. I’ve seen people be overwhelmed and sometimes even have their businesses fail because they didn’t master this.
  1. Do it or dump it. To move forward, revisit each of your dreams. If you’re no longer working on it or willing to do it, or if it’s not working, dump it. If you need to mourn it, do so, and then move ahead.

As you review your dreams, keep integrity in mind. Whether or not a dream supports your integrity—your ability to stay true to yourself—is important to consider when deciding which dreams to keep or toss. Integrity is an inside and outside job, since it involves keeping your word with yourself and others. I admire Marcia for working really hard to maintain integrity with herself and others. You’ll be more able to succeed in business and life if you stay true to yourself.

One of the things I realized during the conference is that I’m good at manifesting my dreams. I think that’s because I’ve always been more dedicated to my dreams than to doubts. I’ve also always been good about asking myself hard questions, like How would I feel at the end of my life if I haven’t done this? As you think about your dreams, ask yourself the same question. You could rephrase it this way: What will happen if I DON’T move forward with my dreams?

If you’re like me, you’re well aware of how quickly time is passing. Revisit your dreams, and then do it or dump it!

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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May
18

Stuck? Try Increasing Your Self-Awareness

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Almost everyone who works with me has a strong belief in coaching. Inevitably, what they’re struggling with is that they know they could be doing better than they are. They have the skills, but they’re not yet stepping forward in the way they want to. They need to more clearly or deeply understand themselves so they can use that information to move forward in a more powerful way.

When working with these clients, I want to help them discover their gifts and more fully employ them, ultimately becoming better versions of themselves. Tools such as the Enneagram, NLP Personality Profile and Myers–Briggs Type Indicator assist in discovering how you perform in the world. This can be helpful for understanding how you get stuck and what to do about it—and in calling forth the higher version of yourself.

Beth has been studying the Enneagram to assist with the work we’ve been doing in Alaska. This tool can help individuals understand how their personality type influences what they do and the direction they move in, and it can help organizations better understand what motivates the people working for them.

When using tools like the Enneagram, it’s important to focus on how the information can help you, your clients and/or your employees interact more efficiently and not get caught up in the “dark side” of the information it reveals. For example, of the nine possibilities within the Enneagram structure, I’m a Seven, or “Enthusiast,” a personality considered to be spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive and scattered. I agree with this assessment, for while I am likely to see countless options presented by new opportunities, I tend to ignore or diminish the possible pitfalls. (Beth would definitely agree with this assessment!)

It’s important that I recognize these things about myself, and it’s helpful for those who work with me—and for those in a relationship with me—to understand as well. Indeed, having a meaningful marriage or relationship is one of the best personal growth vehicles available, and owning your own business is the other. These two things will consistently illustrate and call forth your best self and your problem self.

So if you want to get to know yourself better, try getting married or owning your own business! I imagine many of you have already discovered this. 🙂

Alternatively, if you are stuck and want to move your mission forward in a more powerful way, try a personality assessment tool. The insight you gain might be just what you need to get back on track.

If you have any questions about the WHY or the Enneagram, please let me know.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Apr
20

Learn to Share Your Story

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This month’s tip is that you need to learn how to share your story effectively. You want be able to share your dream in a way that people can really identify with it. It’s important to be able to articulate your dream and talk about it in a meaningful way, sharing from the heart so that it resonates with people and so they know how to support it.

If you don’t share your dreams, people won’t know how to support you, but if you can describe your dreams well, people can help you and will want to help you.

Think of Martin Luther King, Jr. He didn’t say, “I want to share my 5-point plan…” He had a dream, and he knew how to share it!

Here’s an example of someone successfully sharing her dream during an on-stage coaching demo at HCI’s recent Step Into Your Spotlight event:

A woman originally from Puerto Rico chose to share her story of wanting to move from where she now lives in New York City to where she bought a farm in Costa Rica. She described how she would build a house and plant her own food so she could live a sustainable, eco-friendly existence and teach others how to do the same.

She started talking about how much money she’d need to pull this off, and at some point I felt a nudge to help her. I walked up on stage and gave her a $100 down payment for her dream. I started to leave, but she called me back to give me a hug and thank me. By the time I left the stage, there was a line of 20-25 people headed her way. In the end about 125 people gave money to help her achieve her dream!

Many people thanked me for leading the way, saying that things would not have played out the same way if I hadn’t. They noted that my willingness to step up at that time made a difference. I appreciated their input, but I would add that the most important factor in receiving financial support that day came from the woman’s own ability to describe her dream in a way that resonated with us. She knew how to share her story!

Do you?

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Mar
23

Pushing Past Resistance

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I’ve been hearing a lot about resistance lately. Resistance is something you run into when you’re about to make a major change.

It started with one client who called me and said, “I’m starting to feel the resistance now.” Another person brought it up just a couple of days later. Shortly after that I came across a book I had partially read but not finished, Do the Work: Overcome Resistance and Get Out of Your Own Way by Steven Pressfield. He notes that when we consider doing important work, there are forces that weigh against us as entrepreneurs and artists. These appear as resistance, i.e. fear, self-doubt, procrastination, perfectionism, rational thought, friends and family, etc. You must be able to overcome resistance in all its forms in order to succeed.

You have to jump in there and do it. Resistance will show up whenever you start to do something important. It’s one of the first things to appear. It’s actually a good sign, since it’s an indicator that you’re on the right path.

To deal with resistance, determine the positive intent behind it. Examine what it wants for you. To be cautious? To be safe? Figure out the reason, and then move forward.

Ultimately, if the work is worth doing or the change is worth making, you’ll have to push through the resistance.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Feb
17

Are You Ready to Be an Effective Leader?

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Often in our business we operate as sole proprietors, but some of you are contemplating growth. In support of that you’ll probably add people to grow your business. You might start with a virtual assistant or other contractual arrangements, but at some point in your entrepreneurial journey, you’ll make the decision to grow. Even if you hadn’t thought of yourself as a leader before, you will then.

Effective leadership requires several important skill sets: 1) you must be a clear communicator; 2) much as you do in coaching, you must be able to set clear and measureable goals, and 3) you need to be able to describe how those goals are to be measured so that people on your team will know how to carry them out.

One of the things we did with the group in Alaska was to discover people’s “WHYs.” This helped us better understand how recent problems arose—because people didn’t understand each other’s why. It’s important to make sure individuals are in the right positions for their skill set. It’s important to understand each person’s skill set and why.

Another thing we learned is that it really helps to recognize and understand the capabilities of those working for you and apply that understanding in order to work with them in different ways. You have to change what you do to fit the needs of those who work for you. To be an effective leader, you must be flexible, adapting your style to suit the needs of your organization and those working for you. The person with the most behavioral flexibility has the most influence in the system. Hire the right people, be clear about your expectations, create systems for success and then help your employees succeed.

Leaders also have to be able to think systemically, realizing that doing this here will have an impact there. They need to recognize when something isn’t working and identify ways to fix or improve the situation.

When addressing mistakes, effective leaders make several assumptions:

  1. People have the resources they need but may not be using them correctly.
  2. Even though they made a mistake, they had positive intentions.
  3. When they made a decision, it was the best they could do at the time.
  4. If what you’ve been doing doesn’t work, you should do something else.
  5. You can learn from your mistakes; they should be considered opportunities for growth.

One thing I heard ages ago and often repeat is about this: “Never fail to learn from a good mistake.” A good leader recognizes that there’s no failure, only feedback. If something doesn’t work, figure out why.

All of these skills are critical for effective leadership. If you don’t have the skills required for good leadership, or if you (or your leadership team) are lacking in specific areas, you need to acquire those skills or bring in someone who already has them.

For example, what makes our work in Alaska possible is that the company’s owner is interested in nurturing leaders from within because the organization has gotten so large. Her willingness to work with them has made it possible for us to do in-depth work. She’s really committed to growing leaders in her company, but it’s not always a smooth process. She’s creating systems of success for her leaders.

Are you ready to lead?

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Jan
20

What Kind of Regret Is Right for You?

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Unless you’re living your life in a coma, you cannot avoid regret. You simply can’t have a regret-free life. The question is, which kind of regret suits you best?

There’s the kind of regret that comes from not doing something—regret from inaction, and then there’s the regret that comes from doing something and not having it work out—regret because of the consequences of your actions. Which regret is right for you? Would you rather regret what you HAVE done or what you HAVE NOT done?

The underlying criteria for your actions determine your typical regrets. If you believe that taking risks is necessary for self-growth, then you’re more likely to have regrets for consequences. If you lean towards safely and security, you’re more like to have regrets as a result of not having taken risks.

By making a choice FOR something, you are directly or indirectly choosing NOT to do something else. People want their choices to be anxiety free, and when they aren’t, they often avoid making them. When people avoid making painful decisions, it spills over into all parts of their lives. Once they finally move forward with a decision and deal with the consequences, it’s usually a lot easier than they imagined.

One of my favorite coaching challenges is to ask this: “Which anxiety or regret do you want to work on?” Putting off choosing increases the amount of anxiety we experience. Growth requires that we be able to tolerate more uncertainty. Remember that anxiety is a function of your ability to imagine a future that you don’t want. So to a large degree, anxiety is manageable; if you’re going to live in the future, at least make it a future you would enjoy being in. Imagine a future you do want.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Dec
16

Planning for Next Year? Ask Yourself These Two Questions

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As you near the end of each year, it’s always useful to ask yourself what you want to accomplish the following year. I’d like to pose this question at a higher level than is typically asked—instead of what do you want to do, I challenge you to answer this question:

“Who do you want to be in the coming year?”

I’m implying that there’s a particular identity you want to assume. Answering this question about identity will require you to think about the values and beliefs that you’ll need to have in place to be that person.

All too often we just focus on our goals for the year. Those are important, but I really want you to investigate your intentions at the level of values, beliefs and identity. All too often we get caught up in goals without looking at a higher level, and that’s what I want you to focus on.

But that’s not all.

I challenge you to take this process a step further. Ask yourself, “What is the mission I want to carry out as that person?”

If you consider your answers to these questions before determining your annual goals, the actions you take next year will support your beliefs and values, and you will be in alignment. During the planning process, you’ll probably also discover that this way of questioning is more likely to highlight values or beliefs that are potentially in conflict.

Taking the time to thoughtfully answer these two questions will help you create more empowering goals for 2016—ones that are in alignment with who you are, who you want to be and what you want to accomplish.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Nov
18

When the Outcome Is Worth the Pain, S-t-r-e-t-c-h!

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If you read my newsletter, you may recall that I participated in a soccer tournament last month. I played in four games over two days and got feedback from my body that I needed to do something differently than I had been doing. I knew I was not performing at my potential.

One of the principles I teach coaches is that symptoms are a sign for needed action. I was having stiffness and pain, so I sought out my friend John Woolf, a physical therapist who shares this perception. He was able to take me through his process for discovering what’s really important, which is something he adapted from the NLP training I put him through six years ago. John elicited from me what my real physical goals and intentions were. Luckily, I am working with someone who not only can elicit clear goals but also has—given his physical therapy and healing skills—the ability to make what I want possible.

Just like any good coach, John created a clear plan with accountability and had me outline what would be necessary to achieve my goals. He then gave me specific exercises to make them happen. That was the fun part. Then he explained that we were going to have to shake my body out of some stuck patterns that were making it difficult for me to move in an effective manner. To tell you that this part was fun would be to lie.

John was able to do some profound work on me that broke my body out of some frozen patterns, but it was painful. Thankfully, it was the kind of pain that stopped immediately when he stopped the stretches.

Isn’t this like much of our coaching? Sometimes we must be prepared to go through a certain amount of pain or discomfort to break out of old patterns that can keep us frozen and stuck. Even though it can sometimes be painful, if we believe that the outcome we want is worth it, we will be willing to face the pain.

Where I see problems in my coaching experience is when people want significant change but want it to be easy. The more you’ve let a pattern—or a habit—establish itself, the more you might need to break it up before you establish a new one. And then don’t forget that you have to do the equivalent of exercises to maintain the gain.

Every once in a while change can be easy and joyful. More often than not it can be initially difficult or downright painful. Sometimes if you’re willing to face pain head on, the change that results is only because you were willing to force yourself to stretch and add the necessary flexibility.

Think about the last time you took on the challenge of significant change. Were you able to do it without stretching?

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Oct
21

What Characterizes a Good Decision-Maker?

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If you’ve been reading my newsletter or blog for a while, you know that I’ve been involved in a high-level mastermind group. One of the most significant takeaways I had from my last group was the importance of learning to make good high-quality decisions, something that many of us value on both an intuitive and a practical level.

I had the opportunity to learn about making better decisions from a panel made up of people who are recognized in large part due to the results they get as extremely effective decision-makers. Based upon what I learned, I want to offer you a way to think about making high-quality decisions so that the actions you take are more likely to give you the results that you want.

I would like to start out with a question. Think back to a time when you made a really good decision. Now ask yourself, “What made this a good decision?” Was it the outcome, or was it some other factor?

Next I want you to think of a time when you made a decision that you think was a poor decision. What made it a poor decision? Contrast the two decisions, noticing in particular the different way you went about making each of these decisions.

I want you to observe that certain factors will likely have emerged from this brief experiment. One of the areas that is useful to discover is whether 1) you had to choose from a number of options, which meant you were likely going for the best option, or 2) you had to choose between two conflicting choices.

Another thing to consider is whether the results of your choice affected only you, many people or perhaps a larger system. One other factor to reflect on is whether the outcomes of each option were known or predictable. If the outcomes were uncertain, it made it difficult to predict the results of your choice.

So notice already the different factors that influence decision-making. I think there is yet another element that often gets overlooked in decision-making, and that is the beliefs you already have about your abilities to make decisions. Do you believe you’re a good decision-maker? If you don’t, you may have a tendency to put off making decisions, which can be problematic.

You can see this a multilayered process. So what makes a good decision-maker?

Characteristics and Actions of Successful Decision Makers

Here are the characteristics I observed among those on the panel I witnessed, which was comprised of people who are extremely successful in business and personal arenas:

  1. They all thought of themselves as good decision-makers.
  2. They thought that being good at their job meant that they had to make good decisions.
  3. They tended to think of themselves as good decision-makers in their personal lives.
  4. They understood that many of the decisions they were making had major consequences. Because of that they all recognized the importance of taking time to make high-quality decisions. In fact one of them articulated that the more important the decision, the more time he was willing to take. All of them took less time to make less important decisions.
  5. They all started by getting themselves into effective decision-making states. For instance they relaxed and set time aside for the decision.
  6. They all sought input from people they trusted. Sometimes they sought input at the beginning of the process and sometimes more towards the end. All were willing to have people that they trusted challenge their decisions.
  7. They all sought the highest quality information they could, which meant they considered multiple sources.
  8. They identified why it was important to make the decision and what values were at stake. Many of their decisions involved their company’s growth as well as high financial risks and rewards. Sometimes the stakes included maintaining high-quality relationships with current people or potential future partners.
  9. They considered the long-term implications of current decisions.
  10. Each of them also demonstrated an ability to think systemically. For example, they understood that whatever decision they made could have potential impacts in systems outside of theirs. They also recognized that a business decision that made sense in one context might actually be problematic in another.
  11. One of the most fascinating commonalities they all shared was a combination of rational consideration and a willingness to trust their intuition, even if that intuition didn’t make logical sense. Some of them expressed this as “trusting their guts” while others talked about the importance of “listening to their heart.” They often spoke of taking time to pray or meditate in order to tap into another level of consciousness.
  12. Finally, they all had criteria or values that they would not compromise.

So what can be learned from this?

  1. If you want to be a high-level performer, you must be willing to make high-level decisions.
  2. You must be clear about your values when you prepare to make a decision.
  3. You must be willing to seek information that might be at odds with what you desire your outcome to be and learn to treat oppositional information or feedback as information.
  4. You must learn to develop your intuition and trust it.
  5. You need to develop a group of advisors that you would trust to evaluate your decisions.

The final element I’d like to add is that you must be willing to learn from your “bad” decisions. All of the panelists had experienced these, and as one of them said, “Don’t miss the opportunity to learn from a bad mistake.”

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

 

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Sep
23

Mentoring a Legacy

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The word mentor comes from the Odyssey. Ulysses put Mentor in charge of his son, Telemachus, while he was away at Troy. Mentor served as a guiding light to Telemachus, so now mentor refers to someone who imparts wisdom and provides guidance and encouragement to bring another’s talents and gifts forward.

Sometimes mentors choose their mentees, seeing someone who might benefit from their input and intentionally stepping in to provide that support in such a role. More often though, I think it happens in reverse: people see someone they are inspired by and then read information written by or about that person, attend workshops hosted by him or her or officially ask if he or she will mentor them.

In my case with Robert Dilts, I sought him out. I remember attending a training session he led in London almost 15 years ago about different ways people can be supportive, which was the basis of a book he published shortly afterwards, From Coach to Awakener. I’ve read all of his books at least once and some several times, often referring back to them over and over again. I’ve modeled a lot of my training after him.

During my recent mastermind group, Robert and I discussed mentoring. He said he wants to lean more toward mentoring now, and I acknowledged him for the direct and indirect support he’s given me over the years. I explained how much of a mentor he has been for me, noting how his work has been incredibly influential in my thinking. He’s been there to help my heart open up about several things.

Like Robert, I am also focusing more on mentoring. I have been thinking about the impact I want to make on the world, and for me mentoring is now about legacy. I want to help others discover who they are and what they want to be in the world. The difference between a legacy and an earlier vision is that the “younger you” wants to start a movement that’s going to change the world. Later you look for the next generation of leaders who will be able to continue changing the world in a positive way. My Coach Certification Training Program serves in this legacy mentoring capacity, allowing me to help bring forth another powerful generation of coaches.

I’m recognizing that people acknowledge my level of skill and my willingness to continue on my learning path, and they know they can benefit from that. Coaches such as Marcia Wieder have confided that they appreciate the wisdom age has given me. Similarly, participants in my high-level mastermind group have told me, “I always know that if I get stuck, I can come to you.”

So I am on this path willingly and already have several people who refer to me as a mentor. What is most true right now is how willing I am to accept that mantel. So ask yourself, “Am I at the right place in my life to seek out a mentor?” If your answer is a resounding “YES!” then reach out and ask. If you are inspired by someone, that’s always an indicator.

I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, let me know or post them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.

P.S. Do you want to share this post? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.

About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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